When people think about achieving success in life, their focus is usually on the work that is required to achieve their goals. You think about everyday life that creates healthy habits and leads to a better life.
As you get the job done, you may not prepare yourself for what life will be like when you meet your goals. The grind puts on blinkers so you can concentrate. Living an upscale life is a completely different reality.
People think that an infusion of more money, better relationships, more friends, a burst of happiness, and other achievement goals would be a dream, but rapid or unplanned growth would cripple most people.
You have to be willing to put the work in to achieve success because work prepares you for the realities that success can bring. You envision your dream life, you live it out in your head and then you work hard to make it happen. Do not put yourself in the position of making growth and achieving your goals work against you.
“Don’t go through life, grow through life.” Eric Butterworth
Here’s what you need to know about the new realities of your best life and the strategies for your continued growth:
1. You have to stick to your limits.
As you achieve your goals, you will become more visible. Whether on social media or in your circle, you will be noticed – more attention will be drawn to you. Success gives off magnetic energy around which others want to gravitate.
It is important to have limits and always be firm. If you always give your time and energy to those who want it, you will lose that time and energy to yourself. The lack of boundaries and the discipline to adhere to them has stunted the growth of many leaders.
Freedom means that you can give parts of yourself, but on your terms and in a way that is comfortable for you. To continue your growth, be firm over your limits and Don’t feel bad saying no if you want to.
2. You will understand the difference between self-centered and selfish.
If you’ve been on a flight, no doubt you’ve heard from the safety presentation to put on your mask first before helping others. It’s the same principle in your everyday life. You need to put yourself first and be aware of your needs before you start thinking about others.
There is a huge difference between being selfish and being selfish.
The selfish person is all about himself and includes others no matter what the circumstances. People in their life could have trouble and don’t care as long as they are fine.
Being egocentric means putting yourself first and then thinking about others. You worry and are compassionate but understand that you can help others much more if you come from a position of strength and wholeness.
If you want to succeed and achieve your goals, you need to develop habits that support your self-care. You have to love yourself by taking care of yourself first. Pay attention to your mind, body and your emotions. Do the work, rest, relax, and give yourself whatever it takes to get stronger – and then be stronger for others.
3. Your focus on optimization will put a lot of people off.
Focusing on growth means less time doing things that are inconsistent with your goals and values. It means focusing on the optimization habits that will help you get one percent better every day.
This hyperfocus can seem like you don’t care about the same things other people do or that you are a robot. What you need to understand about focus and goals is that they are yours. Others’ opinions and thoughts about how you should live your life are not for you and not for you way to success.
Stay hungry for optimization and growth. Follow your specific path to success and avoid internalizing other people’s opinions about you. The new reality of success is that it can be a lonely path for people to descend – that’s fine. You can find a circle of high achievers who love to grow as much as you do.
The path to success is not easy, but it is possible and leads to a fantastic life. Don’t be put off by the new realities, because there are so many advantages to living a successful life. The most important thing to understand is the importance of loving yourself and taking care of you in the best possible way.
They are the most important goal to work on and to achieve. You deserve incredible life experiences and can accomplish more than your limiting beliefs are trying to convince you that it is possible.
“Don’t let your problems drive you, let your dreams guide you.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson