“If you are satisfied with just being yourself and not comparing or competing, everyone will respect you.”
Lao Tzu

Today I want to focus on one negative habit that creates inner insecurity, undermines self-esteem, and can make you quite unhappy with your own life.

It’s something that came into being when we shifted part of our lives to the internet and social media.

And that habit is to compare yourself and your life to other people’s highlight roles.

What do i mean by that?

That it is so easy to compare your life with the lives of friends, old classmates or celebrities of all sizes when you see every day how perfect their homes, children, love lives are and how filled their lives is with wonderful moments.

But is that all of her life shared on Facebook and Instagram?

Usually not.

It’s just the climax in that person’s life. The positive moments.

And it is very natural to want to share such moments or days with friends or followers.

Well, for some people, this can turn into something destructive.

On a way to create a more perfect picture of your life for instant gratification when people add positivity through comments, likes, and upvotes.

But everyone has problems at times.

You fail. Become sick. Do you have mistakes, bad days, or negative habits.

No matter who you are or how you look or do.

I have these problems too. Just like everyone else.

I still trip and fall some days. Doubts about myself or am pessimistic at times. That’s human.

So don’t strive to be perfect or measure yourself against the highlight role of others.

Here are three healthier steps you can take instead:

Step 1: Compare Smarter.

There will always be people who have more or nicer things than you.

Or are better than you at something. No matter what you do.

So if you want to compare, do so in a way that doesn’t make you feel jealous and inferior.

Do it by comparing yourself to yourself. See how far you’ve come. Look back at the barriers you’ve overcome, what you’ve learned, and how you’ve grown.

Step 2: Spend your energy and time doing what matters most.

Step by step, spend the hours of your day and week building habits that will make you a better and happier person.

For example, try to be optimistic 70% of the time when you were maybe 50% in the last month.

Or spend more of your weekly free time doing your favorite hobby or sharpening a valuable skill.

Step 3: let go of what is pulling you down.

If necessary, sign out or remove social media accounts from your flow if you feel like they are pulling you down and lowering your self-esteem. Even if these things may be entertaining at the moment.

Life isn’t just a highlight reel, no matter who shares it.

So look beyond, remember that everyone is human and stop comparing yourself to this limited view of someone.

In the long run, you’ll be happy that you did.


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