At some point in your life you have likely been told not to count your chickens until they hatch. You have likely been told not to get your hopes up or expect too much – just in case you get disappointed. Most of us have been told this or a variation of it over and over by well-meaning but ill-informed people. The idea of staying in an emotional “safe zone” was instilled in most of us from childhood until they eventually became belief systems that now control our behavior.
Fear of loss!
We live in a culture where the predominant psychology is based on fear. The fear of loss drives and motivates most people’s decisions and behaviors. Out of this mindset, culture has invented mechanisms to protect itself, and saying like “don’t count your chickens before they hatch” is just an illustration of how culture prepares and “tends” us from an early age, to us with the lowest denominator. “Choose the lowest and easiest to make sure you get at least something.” “Don’t expect too much just in case you don’t get anything.” From this way of thinking we lose all our power; the power born in the belief that we indeed deserve all the success and abundance we can dream of.
Indeed, anticipation is one of the most powerful resources you have. Intense anticipation can turn a possibility into a reality. One of the main reasons most people can never achieve their dreams is because they lack the motivation to follow their dreams. The real purpose of a goal is to act like a directional mechanism that will steer your life in a certain direction. A strong and exciting goal has the power to motivate and inspire you. When you feel this goal with anticipation, you are setting in motion an unstoppable force that gives you the inner drive that enables you to create practically anything you desire. Counting your chickens before they hatch creates a sense of excitement and enthusiasm that has immense power to motivate you. Success and performance are seldom the result of your ability, but rather the product of your motivation; Your ability to consistently implement your dreams and goals.
Not all expectation is the same as hope. Most people hope that one day they will get what they want or that one day they will be lucky and all their dreams will come true. Hope is nothing but a weak prayer. Hope always involves success and failure, while expectation is only fixed on a single result. Counting your chickens before they hatch will feed your expectations; you make it stronger and most of all you make it real. It’s a single-mindedness where no one or nothing can throw you off course. When you create this intense sense of anticipation, not only do you imagine you have what you want, but you begin to create the feeling that you already have it.
Whatever you are certain to expect becomes your self-fulfilling prophecy. We all long for security on some level. For most people, certainty comes from seeing and experiencing things before they “believe” them. That’s why they keep inventing and reliving the same old things. If you use your mind, your emotions and your imagination to create the certainty within you, then anything is possible. Expectation goes beyond hope. You want to be like that little kid at Christmas who knows they’re getting a new bike, but they have to wait until Christmas morning to feel and touch it.
You knew you’d get it!
Have you ever ordered something really exciting and then had to wait for it in the mail? You knew you would get it and are eagerly awaiting the moment of delivery. You anticipate the moment when the picture in your mind’s eye becomes real and you can touch it, even though the imaginary experience feels just as real. That is the expectation. It gets excited in advance. It is the feeling of the feelings in advance. It’s the strongest motivator there is. Expectation, driven by emotions, works like a vacuum in you. It’s like a thirst that creates a burning desire that you will do anything to satisfy it. This is when your “should” become “must”, and if it is a must, you will get it.
With anticipation, you can begin to change your perception of life, especially your life. Because you no longer hope for what you want, you expect it to come any second. There are no more doubts and no more hopes. There is only one knowing and one feeling of certainty. When you know something, you can stop doubting and questioning. Now every situation becomes an opportunity to achieve your goal. Everyone becomes an actor and every problem becomes a stepping stone to the realization of your dreams. You have the certainty that the result has been clarified and you are only there; waiting for “Christmas morning”.
You have to let go of the mentality based on fear of loss; the mentality based on the belief that you are not worth it to have it all. Let go of beliefs that if you give your all and it doesn’t work, you may be disappointed. All they do is lock you in a world where you never “try” just because you may not make it. If anything, you want to overestimate your skills. Overestimate your abilities. If you feel like you are walking up a hill that is too steep, don’t turn back and run down the hill. Instead, you raise the price to get to the top. Make the reward more compelling and you will find a strength in you that was not previously available. This is how you access your true resources, those resources that sleep within you and are waiting to be called. Nothing of significant value has ever been created without enthusiasm.
Make it real, as real as possible!
Do whatever you can to “count” your chickens. whatever it takes to make you feel like you already have it. When you have goals you need to start living them and the way you do them is to meet your expectations. Do whatever you can to make it feel like you already have it. Make it a reality. Legendary musician Jackson Browne once said that whenever he is nominated for an award, he always expects to win, even if he’s the underdog. He always prepares a victory speech. What is your victory speech? How can you prepare for what you want most in life? What can you do to make it come true? Most people plan to fail by never expecting to be successful.
Remember, your results will rarely exceed your expectations.