“A pessimist sees the difficulty at every opportunity; An optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty. “
It can turn a situation that looks negative or bleak into an opportunity or something to learn from.
It can replace the exhausting thoughts of pessimism with something that will bring back more positive energy and excitement.
And it can help you jump over obstacles, keep moving if you fall or stumble, and not give up just because you’ve suffered some temporary setbacks.
So it is a good idea to not only add more of this to your own life but also to the lives of the people in your world.
Because in the long run you tend to get what you give.
And in the short term, you can enjoy the smile when you create and spread that positive energy. It also increases your self-esteem when you feel you are doing the right thing.
Here are 10 simple tips that can help you get started.
1. Play music with positive energy.
Elevating music is of course a great way to improve your mood and open up new perspectives again.
You can do the same for people around you. Put on a really positive song when you’re hanging out. Or send them an uplifting playlist for Spotify or similar service.
2. Just be there for someone.
Listen and give the upbeat and informed perspective to someone in your life who needs it.
At first, I find it best to just let the other person bleed so he or she can get the problem on hand into the light. So I’m just there and listening.
Often this is enough. Because just being there helps him to relieve the emotional tension and analyze the problem and find a solution or let go.
If she or he gets stuck in negative thinking or turns a molehill into a mountain, it can be helpful to add your own perspective to ground him or her and change your perspective on the situation.
So that he or she can see that things aren’t really that bad when you zoom out. And together, you both might be able to come up with a solution or a first step that he or she can put into action.
3. Take 30-60 seconds to pay a real compliment.
Think of one thing that makes the other person tick. A passion, small or large. Or something good that too often people take for granted.
And then compliment it. It often means more than you might think.
A smile puts you and the people around you in better, more relaxed headspace.
It works even if you’re not that fond of smiling.
If you want, do a quick experiment. Force smile for 30 seconds or a minute when you feel negative about something and see what happens to your mood.
5. Hide a secret note.
Take 60 seconds to write and hide a note with a compliment. Or a few words of encouragement. Or make a note of gratitude.
Hide it under her pillow, in the lunch box or wallet, or maybe in the book he or she is reading.
6. Help someone relax.
Being busy with work or school can add a lot of tension and stress over time. And that can certainly stand in the way of optimistic and constructive thinking.
So help someone in your life relax.
Suggest a picnic. Just have fun and maybe go swimming in the nearby lake or ocean. Then lie down on the blanket in silence and watch the clouds drift by for a while.
A break like this can do wonders for the mood and perspective for both of you.
7. Cook or bring your favorite food.
When she’s having a bad day, cook her favorite food. Or get your favorite takeaway food.
Or maybe just a little treat, like a piece of chocolate or that special cupcake she loves most.
A hug is, perhaps often more than a smile, something that can make someone feel a little better and a little more secure again. Of course, use it when appropriate.
But don’t underestimate the effect and how that little nudge can bring a person’s mind back to something brighter and more positive.
9. Share what you found or did.
It could be delicious fruit that you picked. Or the jam, cookies, or bread you made. Or fish you smoked, or the beef you jerked out of.
Such a simple but loving gift can really mean a lot and add positive energy to a person’s whole week or month.
10. Pay it forward.
If someone in your life is adding a bit of optimism and positive energy to your life, don’t just give it back somewhere down the line.
Pass it on to someone else too.
And together build a growing upward spiral of optimism, encouragement and compassionate friendliness.